Nicole – 28
Cam – 40
Arlo – 14 months
Doc (our doggy) – 6 years
Nicole is from Sydney and Cam is from New Zealand. We had our little boy and moved to the country to live a more meaningful life.
In a sweet little town called Clunes in the Byron Bay Hinterland
Mama to Arlo is my main gig. Cam and I also own the Clunes Nursery. We sell food plants, medicinals and natives. We also sell organic produce, and do produce boxes that you can pick up or have home delivered. We are now working on our market garden, so we can grow and sell fresh chemical free produce, as well as holding workshops and classes.
5 favourite things/items?
1. My family
2. My books (and now also Arlo’s books – how great are kids books!)
3. My car – A car is essential where we live and I am so grateful to be able to get to where I want to go
4. My friends – They aren’t things or items but I can’t think of anything else that I own that is better than my tribe. I don’t know what I would do without them all.
5. My yoga mat – it was my teacher/best friends mat. it has been to many amazing places and is very special to me.
What are you most passionate about?
Women’s work. Communing with women, honouring women. Making sure that we as women realise the power that we hold – our cyclical natures, our intuition, our creative force. To grow and birth a child is the pinnacle of life as we know it, yet these days we are not made to feel that. Women are made to feel inferior, and mothers are made to feel like they aren’t enough. The more loved and respected women are, the better they can love, nurture and respect the next generation. And thats what the world needs – people who are whole, and who love themselves and others.
Do you have any hobbies/things you do in your downtime?
I love to knit, and I also love to read. But at the moment, we have so much going on that when I have time to myself, I really love to just sit and be still. Silence and space are what I really treasure right now.
How did becoming a mother change you?
I feel that when you become a mother (or father), your whole identity is changed. I feel like the first year of Arlo’s life, I spent it integrating parts of my old self into this new person that I didn’t even know. At times it was overwhelming but mostly liberating. If anything, I now am more resolved to live more in my truth, to be more responsible for my actions and words. There is a little human who is learning from me how to be a good person, this is an immense realisation to have.
What’s the best part about being a mother?
Arlo is just so much fun. I love that so much. He is pure joy, and he is constantly laughing and smiling. He is really bringing us back into our childish joyful nature.
Naming your children is always so difficult (or maybe it was just me!) Was it easy to pick your child’s name and why did choose it?
Cam’s mum suggested Arlo and at first it didn’t stick – but honestly, no name seemed right for most of my pregnancy. Two weeks before Arlo was born, the name popped up again and it felt really good. As soon as we saw our new son, we instantly knew that his name was Arlo. I love his full name – Arlo Jack Logan – because it makes him sound like a great adventurer (in my mind anyway).
Has your personal style changed since becoming mother? If so how?
I have always dressed for comfort so not really. But when Arlo was first born I felt limited because I needed to wear things that were breast feeding friendly. Now that he doesn’t feed so much, I am enjoying wearing whatever I want again.
Is there anything about motherhood that has surprised you?
Everything about motherhood has surprised me. I think it’s because there isn’t much about it that can be put into words. The intense feelings that come with mothering are out of this world. Your whole spectrum of emotion is infinitely expanded.
Favourite thing to do as a family?
Most of our days are spent working (the joys of having a family business) but time spent in the garden together is so sweet. Arlo loves getting into it all, and at the end of the day we are muddy and happy. At the moment I am teaching Arlo to pull out weeds and not plants!
What has been the most memorable moment for you in motherhood so far?
I couldn’t pinpoint one single moment. All the moments blow my mind, seriously! Everytime he learns something new. He has just learnt to hug and he gives me the best hugs, they are pretty memorable.
What are some baby essentials every new mother needs?
A baby wrap – the Yoli + Otis wrap is a life saver because you don’t have to wrangle meters of fabric, it’s so simple and so comfy.
It might not be a physical baby thing but – make sure you are drinking heaps of water and eating healthy, fresh food. All mothers need this, but especially in the first few months it is so important to keep your body as healthy and energized as possible. Doing this looks after your physical and mental state, as well as doing your baby the world of good.
What are some of your favourite shops/websites for baby wear?
I really love Summer & Storm – a label that is based in Northern NSW and make beautiful natural clothes, as well as amber and crystal teething necklaces.
What is the one thing you want to teach your children?
Always, always, always choose love.
Have any advice for newly mothers/mothers to be?
As a new mama you are thrown into the deep end, big time. So just remember to not be so hard on yourself. And follow your baby’s lead. They have an innate capacity to grow and thrive, so if you can trust this and not worry about them developing bad habits (who even came up with that concept?) then half the battle is won. There are a million and one ways you will think you are doing it wrong but the truth is that you are doing your best, so try to relax into this new role as much as you can.
@soul__circle – conscious gatherings for women in the Byron Hinterland