Gemma ( 31 ) Nathan (32 ) Coco ( Angel baby ) Margot 6 months
After meeting on a music tour in the states in 2007, marrying in 2009, opening a shop in 2010, closing said shop in 2010, getting pregnant in 2013, moving cities, buying our first home, renovating our first home, having and loosing our firstborn Coco in 2014, opening our current shop Blackbird Goods in 2015, selling our first home, buying our second home, beginning to renovate our second home in 2016, and having our daughter Margot in 2017, as well as many adventures along the way, we are one busy, but happy family.
We live in a small town Hastings, Hawkes Bay in the North Island of New Zealand, with plains and mountain ranges and vine yards as far as the eye can see.
I am an editorial stylist, one half of Blackbird Goods and a mama.
5 favourite things/items?
My man, and my girls ( including the girl pup Frankie )
My pair of Louis Kittleson vases my husband got me for our 8 year wedding anniversary, symbolizing us, a little battered, bruised, but strong and standing.
Advetures and Travels
A good glass of Rosé
Do you have any hobbies/things you do in your downtime?
Does renovating count? I dont know if that is really a hobby, but it’s what we do in our spare time. I take a night pottery course, Nathan plays a little basketball, other than that we try to head out on an adventures locally or abroad, when time and the bank account allows of course.
How did becoming a mother change you?
Motherhood has changed me more than I can say, and in different ways by each of our girls. Coco made me a mother, and for that I will always be thankful, she also taught me that at the end of the day, what matters is people, people, people. She made me far more compassionate and softer, and made me far more of a crier! Margot is teaching me to be calm, as it helps her to be calm, and to be patient, and I am sure she is not done teaching me yet.
What’s the best part about being a mother?
Those sleepy, warm, milky cuddles, that gummy smile when you come in the room, and seeing my husband become the most amazing father.
Naming your children is always so difficult (or maybe it was just me!) Was it easy to pick your child’s name and why did choose it?
We had always wanted our childrens first name to be their own, not a family name, but something that is theirs alone, then second names to hold something of their heritage. We named Coco a little differently though, I had always loved the name Coco, of course a name of a strong and talented woman, but also endearing and sweet, the right mix of feminine and masculine. We named Coco the day we found out she had Trisomy 18 ( you can read more here ), which was the same day we found out we were having a girl, and then we added Darling as a whimsical reference to Peter Pan and Neverland, as she wouldn’t ever grow up. Margot has a prettty long name, which we tossed and turned over while I was pregnant, we had two main contenders for first names, a few second names but the third name Pipiwharauroa was a must. So we named her Margot, meaning pearl, something beautiful out of a hard time and also in reference to the great Wes and Tenenbaums, Rae meaning wise protection after her rough entry into the world and her Great Pops name, Pipiwharauroa after her Great great great great grandmother on her fathers side, a strong, independent woman, meaning shinning cuckoo of summer, herald of spring, sunshine after winter and our little summer babe.
Has your personal style changed since becoming mother? If so how?
Not really, I was a jeans and teeshirt kinda gal, and still am, I know just look at every item thinking ” can I breastfeed in that?”
Is there anything about motherhood that has surprised you?
I really thought I would be more tired, and more worried. I mean dont get me wrong, I have been tired, and defiantly worried, but not to the degree I thought I might be.
Favourite thing to do as a family?
Sunday is family day, and our favourite thing to do is get out in the fresh air and nature and go for a walk. There are so many great tracks around Hawkes Bay, down by the rivers, up Te Mata Peak or through the redwoods so we take our pick each week.
What has been the most memorable moment for you in motherhood so far?
Oh gosh, there are too many, but the sweet was seeing Nathan hold Margot for the first time, it was so beautiful, so emotional and so long awaited. And the bitter would be holding Coco, all new and warm and squishy, and then getting hit hard with the fact that she wasnt there anymore.
What are some baby essentials every new mother needs?
Kimono baby onesies for easy changes, A glass water bottle for alllll the thirst, a pretty pair of PJs for those first weeks of living in them and some great support!
What are some of your favourite shops/websites for baby wear?
I am defiantly spoilt with stocking a few of our favourites at our own store Blackbird Goods, so Nature Baby, Jamie Kay, Fog Linen but I also love Millk, Yoli and Otis, Bellulé and a good op shop!
What is the one thing you want to teach your children?
Have any advice for newly mothers/mothers to be?
Embrace the initial chaos, the house may not look like you want it, you may not look like you want, but enjoy those snuggles, embrace those days in bed because soon you’ll find your rhythm, you’ll feel a bit more of top of things, but your baby will have grown and changed, and you don’t want to miss that in the meantime.